Adult Dating in the Age of the Internet


As an adult, there’s more to worry about in the world of dating than whether you picked the right outfit or you’ve selected the perfect restaurant for a great first impression. The formalities of dating are plenty to worry about, but there are bigger things on the line than reeling in the right fish from the sea.

Simply put, dating can be dangerous if you’re not careful. When meeting someone in hopes of allowing them to enter your life, potentially forever, you maybe a in a haze of hopefulness that can distract you from considering things like your personal safety. While your intentions might be purely innocent, you can never be certain what’s motivating your suitor.

According to a consumer alert from the Michigan attorney general’s office, many dating services and the people connected to them aim to leverage vulnerable daters in many ways. The office stresses the importance of personal awareness in relation to financial and physical pressures that could lead to harm.

As you age, you may find yourself less willing to explore the public dating scene, instead relying on dating sites to find your perfect match. While
these often seem safer and more efficient than meeting someone at a bar or through a friend, they harbor their own set of concerns to be aware of. Here are just a few to consider, according to the attorney general.

Financial risks
Avoid being saddled with an expensive dating site contract that does not provide results but cannot be canceled, possibly leading to collection efforts and negative information that affects your credit report and credit score.

Security and safety risks
Avoid becoming a victim of stalking or identity theft if your personal information is misused by other dating service members, company employees or others who gain access to information about you. In addition, most dating services do not perform criminal background checks on members.

Privacy risks
Do not use an email address you use for other purposes and avoid using any address that contains your name or your employer or school name when signing up for a dating service. Instead, use an alternate email address from a service that will permit you to open an account without giving out your personal information.

Your personal and financial information should always be safeguarded, and you should be wary of providing them unless it’s necessary and trusted. Be extremely suspicious of any requests for money, especially before you have met the person face to face. In addition, be wary of requests to meet at private locations on a first meeting, be sure to always notify a friend or family member of your whereabouts and leave all available information about the person you will be meeting with your contact.

Adam Lansdell

Adam Lansdell

Adam Lansdell is an Alumni of Grand Valley State University, and currently a Communication Specialist with M3 Group of Lansing. With a passionate for all things creative it comes as no surprise that he’s also a musician, movie buff and graphic designer. Adam spends his down time biking, and spending too much of his personal income on concert tickets or vinyl records

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