Yes, I took another step in the game of “life events” when I became a Grandfather on April 9. My daughter Riley brought into this world a beautiful 7 lb. boy named Dax. Mom and Grandson are both doing well; it’s Gramps who had some issues. It started when we first learned of Riley’s pregnancy. Besides the joy of the moment upon learning the happy news, a few days later another realization arrived. This one came as we drove into work one morning and my wife looked at me and called me Grandpa. BOOM! I didn’t see that one coming! As I looked at Brenda and then into the rearview mirror I didn’t see a Grandpa staring back at me. Okay, I get it. I’m no spring chicken but Grandpa? I love the fact that I have a grandson I can watch grow up and spend time with doing the things Grandpas and Grandsons should do, (maybe not the diaper changing part so much), but you see “life events” can go either way. Getting your driver’s license is good. Wrecking your Dad’s car is bad. Your first kiss is good. When it’s from a frog while your brother has you pinned to the ground, is bad. So getting my first grandson was good, no make that great. Having myself enter a new phase of adulthood, not so great. It’s funny how a “title,” especially when it comes to growing older can impact you. The infant to toddler to adolescent are harmless “life events” and usually never remembered. But how about adolescent to teenager? That’s pretty significant. Then there is teenager to young adult. Again, this was a phase we all looked forward to. Then we hit the wall (so to speak) on “life events.” We hit adulthood. Turning 30 years old was pretty insignificant, 40 was a different story altogether. I woke up that morning with a positive outlook, by the end of the day I was wearing my first pair of “readers” so I could enjoy the birthday cards I had received. How someone’s eyesight can deteriorate in an eight hour period still eludes me? So, I’m determined to embrace this new phase of my life with the enthusiasm and joy that having grandchildren will do for you. But when he starts talking I’ll let him call me Granddude.
Pete Ruffing is the Sales Director at M3 Group in downtown Lansing. He and his wife of 14 years Brenda live in Okemos.