“The Days are long, but the years are short.”- Gretchen Rubin I blinked and a year went by — that how’s I feel as we begin 2013. Where did it go? I’ve looked through pictures and know that I was busy living my life, raising my kids and running my business. Somehow I just did not accomplish everything on the to-do list I created in January 2012. I swear, the older I become, the quicker time goes — my kids (and my puppy) seem to grow right before my eyes. 2013 is a big year for me. I am hitting a milestone this month — the big 4-0. People keep asking me how I feel about that and I have to be honest, I don’t feel anything about it. Perhaps I run around with a serious case of denial, but I feel exactly the same as I did 25 years ago (admittedly, I don’t LOOK the same … but I still think I’m doing pretty darn well in that department). My BFF, Candy, and I were talking about this recently — we are the same two goofy girls that we were in middle school and high school. We giggle, talk about boy problems and complain about our parents from time-to-time. Perhaps that’s the great misconception of growing up, we look forward at our future selves and envision that we’re somehow going to be a much more serious, reserved, together and watered down version of who we are today. I know that I was sure that I’d have it all figured out by now — living life on cruise control. Not so much … Don’t get me wrong; I’m not down about where I am. I realize how fortunate and blessed I have been for the past four decades. I’m healthy, I’ve given birth to three amazing children and I’ve had the opportunity to pursue my dreams and passions. Not a bad gig at all. I still look at the world full of hope and wonderment — not something my teen or 20-year-old self thought people in their 40s did. My to-do list, dreams and aspirations are as alive and meaningful as they were to me then. I’m still hell-bent on fronting a band, learning Spanish and am pretty sure that I’m destined for greatness. Sometimes I need my mommy, because she is the only one who can comfort me. I am thrilled to see what’s next as I enter this new period of my life. Over the next decade I will go from the mother of elementary school kids to having two in high school. My oldest son will be 30 when I hit my next milestone. My precious puppy will be an elderly dog. Will I have done all the traveling like I plan? Will my kids still want to snuggle with me? Will I have realized my life’s purpose? I certainly don’t have a crystal ball, but I am optimistic about what the future holds. I don’t feel like there is any other way to be. When I lost my dad 2 ½ years ago, the reality of life’s impermanence smacked me fully (and with little warning) in the face. It was then that I really committed to begin purposefully living my life in a way that would leave me without regret. Who knows what will come this year or beyond, but what I do know is that I am striving to enjoy the beauty of each day that I have. As you enter into this New Year, I encourage you to take time out to think and dream. What is it that you want your life to look like? What does your heart desire? What childhood dreams have you locked away from your responsible and grown up self? Twelve months from now, what do you want to look back and reminisce about this year that is before you? If given the proper planning, imagination, commitment and little bit of luck — 2013 may be the best year yet. Shelley Davis Mielock is a certified image consultant, professional speaker and the Director of Training & Professional Development at M3 Group. To ask Shelley an image or professional development question, please email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Shelley Davis Mielock
Shelley Davis Mielock is a certified business image coach and the founder of Mieshel Image Consulting, a Lansing-based firm that specializes in image development for individuals and businesses. She is also a co-host of In Her Shoes, a a weekly women’s talk radio show. To ask Shelley an image question, please e-mail her.