Decisions, Decisions


Have you ever been at a fork in the road where you’ve had to make a decision in life that wasn’t easy at the time? Well, that fork came in the form of a career prospect too good to turn down. The problem, you ask? Choosing the new position solidified my hard work as a writing and editing professional, but also meant that I had to leave an extremely fulfilling job in the nonprofit sector. This was not an easy decision.I sat by that fork in the road for a good month, reflecting on the pros and cons of both positions and coming up even almost all the way around. Almost. Truth is, even though the dynamic of the office was great, and I enjoyed both the people I worked with and the people I served … I was working in a field outside of my own, and it felt very alien.

What does this have to do with motherhood? Well, the time came when I just couldn’t stand it anymore, and I called my mother up to help guide me in the right direction. Her wise words were enough to help me make a final decision. She gave me two things to think over:

  1. What would you tell your son to do in your shoes?
  2. There’s never a good time to leave a job you love, other than for a job that’s more in line with your future goals.

Then, of course, the answer was clear. I needed to move forward, even if the timing seemed wrong to me. I was happy, but I knew I’d kick myself if I let the opportunity pass me by. Especially after it came knocking at my door when I wasn’t looking for it.

My mother helped clearly define the road I needed to travel down by using my own child as an example. She helped me see the situation from another perspective, and then it all clicked. Of course I’d tell my son to go after his dreams.

Bottom line: it’s always hard to say goodbye when you don’t want to leave. But the good thing about a nonprofit is that you can always serve them, even if you don’t work there!

Thanks, Mum. You might be about 10,000 miles away, and I may be turning 30 this month, but you still help set me on the right path. Love you.

Tags: decisons, fork in the road, new job


Suban Nur Cooley

Suban Nur Cooley is a young communications professional and writer in the Greater Lansing region, who currently works for Capital Gains and the Refugee Development Center. She is also a proud Australian expatriate and Lansing homeowner.

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