Persevere Under Pressure: Chaos can show your strength

Have you ever had something go wrong – terribly wrong? And, to top it off, it wasn’t your fault. You had no control over the situation, timing, others involved and the ultimate outcome. Let’s face it: things do not always go the way you plan. Most of the time, you don’t even see it coming. On really stressful days, when more than one problem occurs, that’s when we truly see what we’re made of. I believe it’s days like these that help us become better people, empathize more in chaotic situations and develop skills for coping. I’ve always been able to keep it together under pressure. It isn’t always easy, but over the years I’ve determined that freaking out or casting blame or hiding in a closet doesn’t solve anything. I don’t think this only pertains to business situations – it’s about life in general. I also believe that when things are not going smoothly at home or in the economy or through natural disasters, others gain strength from those who are in control and keeping it together. One time my husband had to deliver some particularly bad news, and while it was unsettling I didn’t get upset, worked up or show tears. I simply said that we would be fine and I wasn’t worried. The situation would work itself out and we would make sure of it together. And, I truly believed that. He told me that the whole way home he knew I would be strong and that made him feel confident we would persevere. Ultimately, with everything going on in today’s world, we have to really focus on what’s important to us knowing that sometimes things just won’t go our way. It’s how we deal with the difficulty that defines our ability to persevere. So, as we celebrate our home, sweet home this month, I encourage you to keep your head held high, dig in your heels and don’t let anyone tell you that Michigan or Lansing isn’t worth fighting for. Whatever you’re going through – as tough as it is – you will get through it and will gain knowledge and skills along the way that will be needed in the future. I’m particularly impressed with Lisa Williams, our cover story. She must have an inner strength that keeps her spirits high even as she deals with the littlest creatures among us in the most desperate of situations. Not only did she lend a hand in Louisiana as part of a team helping with the Gulf BP Oil spill, she made her way back to Michigan in time to help our wildlife through another oil spill in the Kalamazoo River. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be watching the innocent animals suffering, but it must be encouraging to know that you’re making a true difference. I’m proud to know that Lisa is out there tirelessly fighting for our wildlife, environment and the Michigan scenery we sometimes take for granted. As you know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. In order to raise much needed funds for research, CAWLM and In Her Shoes radio are creating a team to support the Making Strides event on Oct. 23. To make it interesting, Shelley Davis Mielock (my cohost on the radio) and I will be wearing our heels during the walk. I know what you’re thinking – how do I get myself into these things. It’s for a great cause! So, join Shelley and I on our In Her Shoes team where you don’t have to wear heels to participate – unless you want too. Go to to find out more. I want to take a minute and thank all of you who weathered the storm (we received three inches of rain that day) at the CAWLM Lady Classic last month. I have to say that women know how to take these situations in stride (I’m sure from years of practice). No one seemed particularly unnerved when the monsoon hit and drove everyone indoors. Special thanks goes to Independent Bank for being our premiere sponsor this year. I can’t wait to see how our third annual event comes together. I also want you to mark your calendars for the next big CAWLM event – the 80s Flashback Party. Who doesn’t love the 80s? Well, okay, if not – just don’t tell me. Big hair (I haven’t quite given that up), leg warmers and great music will be a few of things we pay homage to on March 19, 2011. And, for those of you who know the 80s well (you know who you are), we’re going to have an 80s Idol competition and other unique events to showcase your 80s pride. This event will raise funds for a community arts project and more details will be coming soon. You don’t want to miss this party. There’s no place like home, and I’m proud to call Lansing mine. Have a great October, Mid-Michigan. Tiffany Dowling Publisher

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Tiffany Dowling

Tiffany Dowling

Tiffany Dowling is the Founder and President of M3 Group, a full-service branding agency located in downtown Lansing, Mich. She is also owner and publisher of Capital Area Women’s LifeStyle Magazine and the Greater Lansing Business Monthly. Dowling has helped businesses and organizations with branding needs for more than a decade. Learn more at

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