Abyan (pronunciation: Aah – Bee – Yun)
Born January 13, 2010, at 8:46 a.m.
My little bundle of joy was born three weeks early! Now granted, I am thrilled that I had the pleasure of enjoying him sooner, but I didn’t quite plan for an early arrival. In fact, I did the exact opposite.
After hearing for the hundredth time that I’d likely go over my due date (February 2), I figured I’d utilize as much pre-baby time as possible to get all sorts of writing responsibilities and projects started or squared up. Because there’s another comment I heard all too often: “you won’t be able to get anything done once your baby’s born.” Little did I know I’d be up in the wee hours of the morn’ tending to my two babies, Abyan and my writing profession.
In the end, (thanks to editors turning a blind eye on a day … or two) I managed to successfully juggle being the mother of a newborn and having a demanding, deadline-driven workload. However, if I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t have piled my writing plate so high. I enjoy writing immensely, but for a moment there, it was taking away from precious time spent with my son, and I wasn’t enjoying that aspect of my work.
So take heed all you first time prego, workaholic women. Learn from my mistake and be sure to clear your schedule so that you are spending ample time enjoying being a new mother. Don’t plan anything for a good four weeks after your child is born!
But remember, if you find yourself in a similar predicament to mine, know that it’s totally doable! It is possible to divvy up your time and energy efficiently and effectively so that you are being a loving mother and a responsible professional. Who wouldn’t respect someone who honors their work commitments four days after having a baby? Yes, I officially claim superstar status for the next year!