I’ve been in a funk lately. Not a “I’m in a bad mood” funk, or a “I’m stuck in a rut” funk, not even a “I’m sick of this weather” funk. The funk I am in is much more serious than that. I’ve been in a SHOPPING FUNK! That’s right — I’ve been having trouble buying new clothes and shoes. I’m trying to figure out how and when I got here and I just can’t put my finger on it. I’ve certainly spent time at stores, and a few things have even caught my eye. But when push comes to shove, I haven’t been moved enough to pull the trigger. If you were to look in my closet, you would be assured that I am not lacking for clothes or shoes. In fact, my husband would really appreciate if I would get rid of some garments or stilettos so he could gain some valuable real estate in our master walk-in (for the record … that’s not going to happen). The reality is that I am super in tune with my style. If I don’t love something then I don’t have a desire to buy it, because I know what comes next. When I do give in and buy something I “kind of” like it hangs in my closet and mocks me (with its tags still on…) for the next two or three years. I am confident that I will find something that catches my fancy soon, but I really don’t mind the feeling of walking into my closet and digging everything that’s in there. If you’re reading this and wondering how you, too, can fall in love with your wardrobe, then spend some time with the ideas I’ve come up with for you. Color Coordinate I preach about making wise color choices for your wardrobe to everyone who asks. The reason is that the color you wear can impact your mood and how others react to you. Planning your wardrobe carefully around a few colors will extend its use because you can mix and match more easily. I almost exclusively wear black, with the exception of jeans and a few pieces that I wear on rare occasions. This works for me and keeps my life simple. I recommend you choose three or four colors that you feel great in and use them as the foundation of your wardrobe. Shopping based on your wardrobe’s color scheme will also be much more efficient for you. Wearable in Real Life I have an amazing pair of Christian Louboutin shoes. They are by far the most gorgeous thing I’ve ever laid eyes on and the crème de la crème of my collection. The problem is that they are not very wearable for my life here in the Mitten State, and they are generally too much for most of the events that I attend. I gaze at them every day in their prime spot in my closet, but always choose something more practical for my regular wear. To fall in love with your closet, you should aim to have items that are relevant to your lifestyle. The goal is really to have your garments directly reflect your day-to-day needs. Having mostly showstoppers will likely leave you feeling like you have a closet full of nothing to wear, although one or two is fine. Fits You Today I long for the body I had in m20s, and I assure you that I work out like crazy to try and get it back. Unfortunately, after three kids it’s just not the same. Filling your closet with clothing items or shoes that do not fit you is a sure fire way to start your day off on the wrong foot. The feeling of confidence you can have when you are able to pull any garment out and wear it comfortably in indescribable. Don’t fool yourself into thinking ill-fitting garments will serve as motivation — I promise they won’t. In this month of love, take time to fall in love with yourself. Start making small changes that boost your confidence — you will be happy with the results.
Shelley Davis Mielock
Shelley Davis Mielock is a certified business image coach and the founder of Mieshel Image Consulting, a Lansing-based firm that specializes in image development for individuals and businesses. She is also a co-host of In Her Shoes, a a weekly women’s talk radio show. To ask Shelley an image question, please e-mail her.