For a year solid I carried around an index card with a list of items: Wedding dress; designer jeans; swimsuit. The idea was every time I wanted to eat something that was “bad” for me I was to pull out the index card and the list was supposed to remind me that those items or looking skinny in those items, was more important than what I was about to eat. It worked. For a while. But the thing is, most of the time that index card — instead of serving as an inspiration — served as a tool that allowed me to beat myself up. Typically it’d fall out my pocket as I was about to destroy a plate of Buffalo wings. Rarely did it stop me from eating what I wanted and instead, just left me with guilt and feelings that I’d never look good in my wedding dress. Turns out, I rocked my wedding dress, Buffalo wings and all. I found that index card — which happened to be a result of a New Year’s resolution — the other day. Given the timing, it got me thinking about how different my resolutions would look for 2013 versus around 2005 when I made the card. As I sat to write my resolution list, I realized that no matter what I put on that list, if it didn’t come to fruition by 2014 I’d feel the same sense of let down as I did when I looked at that index card. So, instead, I wrote down all of the things that I did accomplish in 2012. It. Was. Awesome. I would like to propose that you do the same. I’ll carry that card with me and whenever I’m having “one of those days,” I’ll pull it out and pat myself on the back. I had a friend come into my office the other day, proclaiming his life was in the gutter because he received a notice of unpaid parking tickets. Now, unpaid parking tickets may not make his list of accomplishments for 2012, but now that he’s set up a payment plan, paid off parking tickets can be part of his 2013 list. Don’t get me wrong, goals are a wonderful tool, but I think too often we forget to celebrate when we achieve those goals. I hope your New Year’s Reflection List for 2012 is long and your list at the end of 2013 is even longer and, perhaps more importantly, that you get to enjoy some Buffalo wings in the process. Happy New Year!
Emily Caswell is the Managing Editor of CAWLM. She has a passion for fun, family, friends, shopping sprees, cold drinks and Lansing.